Rejections & Lies, Part 2



In last week's post, I wrote on how rejections and the lies we find ourselves believing can affect us. Today's post is a continuation of that, and although it may be read as a separate post, to glean as much as you can, I encourage you to read the first part here.


Welcome back! I want to share some ways we can dispel some of the lies that we face, by replacing them with God's truths for us. Please note that this is not an exhaustive list, but some of the more common ones that women face.



1. I AM ALONE.


The truth is: You are NEVER ALONE.


Joshua 1:9

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go."


Deuteronomy 31:8

“The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."


He is ALWAYS with us. In our times of need, He sends people into our paths to help weather the storms with us, to encourage us. As a member of the body of Christ, the daughter of the Most High King, you are not alone. We were created to be "together," NOT isolated. Satan wants us isolated, feeling lonely as if no one cares. The good news is, there is strength in numbers.


2. NO ONE CARES ABOUT ME OR WHAT I AM DOING.


The truth is: God takes GREAT DELIGHT in you. He SEES you.


Zephaniah 3:17

“The Lord, your God, is with you,

the Mighty Warrior who saves.

He will take great delight in you;

in his love, he will no longer rebuke you,

but will rejoice over you with singing."


Psalm 121:7-8

“The Lord will keep you from all harm—

he will watch over your life;

the Lord will watch over your coming and going

both now and forevermore.”


The Lord is in the midst of it all. He rejoices over you with singing; you are cared for! His watchful eye never leaves sight of you. He watches your coming and goings, even down to the tiniest details. He sees you and cares deeply for you!


3. I AM NOT APPRECIATED, OVERLOOKED.


The truth is: You are HANDPICKED by God and CALLED by God.


Romans 8:28

“And we know that in all things, God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”


John 15:16

“You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name, the Father will give you.”


When God created the world, He made it with you in mind. He handpicked you, chose you to be right where you are. The generation you are living in, the family you are in, and even where you live! He has called each one of us to go and bear fruit, to share His love with those around us.


4. I AM UNLOVED.


The truth is: You are LOVED!


1 John 3:1

“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him.”


1 John 4:9-11

"This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world

that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another."


You are loved beyond measure. There are no words to describe God's love for you; it is extravagant. He sacrificed His one and only Son to die on the cross, to bear our sins so that we might have everlasting love with Him.


5. I AM UNWORTHY.


The truth is: You are PRECIOUS and LOVED


Isaiah 43:4

"Since you are precious and honored in my sight,

and because I love you..."


Do you feel precious to God, worthy in His eyes? Do you consider yourself cherished? Even when you think you are not, you truly are. Though at times you feel defeated and worthless, God's love is unfailing, and you are worthy in His eyes.

6. I AM USELESS, NO BIG DEAL.


The truth is: You are ENGRAVED in the palms of His hands and are His HANDIWORK.


YOU MATTER because YOU ARE HIS.


Isaiah 43:16

"See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands…"


Ephesians 2:10

"For we are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."


God uses everything for good. You may be feeling like you are in a slump, keep plugging away, drawing closer to Jesus because you are in His palm, and He has a greater purpose in all that is happening in your life.


7. I AM NOT ENOUGH.


The truth is: You are FEARFULLY and WONDERFULLY made.

Psalm 139:14

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your

works are wonderful, I know that full well.”


8. THIS IS TOO MUCH, I CAN'T DO THIS. (feeling overwhelmed and stressed)


The truth is: God wants you to CAST YOUR BURDENS onto Him.

Philippians 4:13

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”


Matthew 6:34

“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”


1 Peter 5:7

“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”


The hard truth is, you can't do "it" on your own. You do not have the strength needed; you will fail EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. You were not meant to carry that burden, the heaviness that is weighing down. The good news, with God's strength, you can! When you daily release what is troubling you, place it at the feet of Jesus and leave it there, you will find FREEDOM! You may find yourself picking it back up daily, but be diligent and keep giving it back to Jesus to carry.


9. FEAR {—this is a big one, but God is bigger.}


The truth is: Fear is a LIAR.


Isaiah 43:2

“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass

through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire,

you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.”


Isaiah 41:10

"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."


Psalm 27:1

"The Lord is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid?"


God is not surprised by anything; after all, we are human, which means we are all broken, flawed, and need Him. He loves us, bought us for a price, paid a ransom for us. We all fail; it is what we do with that failure that is important. Are we going to let it get the best of us, beat us down, or will we learn and grow from it? Will we allow God to use it to refine us, mold us and draw us closer to Him, to be more like Him?


Ephesian 6:12

“For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world, and the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”


Our struggle is not against flesh and blood. I like the way Lysa writes in her book, “Uninvited”—" we have a real enemy, not each other."


Our identity must be tethered to the truth, to the one who is with us, our Anchor in the storms. The more I place my trust in God; the more my thoughts will be lined up with His. The more I trust Him; the more His truths become my identity.



Our identity does not rise and fall on what people say or do in our circumstances. Our peace does not come from the world. When we anchor our souls to God, we find His peace; that is how we can walk into any situation with God's fullness.


And even though we do not know what the future holds or even why we are rejected or don't understand why we believe the lies we believe. We can know deep in our souls that we serve a God who does know and that He will work everything together for good.


The question is, how do we get there? How can we face the rejections of our lives?


Listen, our mindset and our thinking patterns can truly and radically transform us. It is important how we respond. It is powerful and changing, for the good or bad. In other words, am I honoring and pleasing the Lord in this? We can't keep from being rejected, but we can keep from living in rejection. If we deal with rejection properly, we will learn that our identity and strength lies in Jesus, not others. The only way we can understand the truths of life is to be in His Word. The Bible holds everything we need to know about life. We must not only read His Words, but we must live them out and apply them to our lives. The change comes from the inside out, letting God in so He can renew our hearts and spirits. He is in the business of restoring and renewing hearts. He is the Healer of our souls.


When I notice I have started believing a lie, these are some practical steps I take to dispel them. They may be helpful for you as well.


1. If someone has hurt you, take it to God. Forgive the person, choose to let go and be a grace-giver. Pray for them. Remember, we have an enemy, and it is not each other. Extend grace, mercy, and forgive. Keep moving forward, even if it is a baby step. It is part of the healing process. We cannot keep moving forward when we are so full of anger, resentment, and bitterness, etc. It steals our joy and peace.


2. Find one or two friends you trust and who can pull you close to pray for you, encourage you, direct you to His truths. Find a friend who is not afraid to speak truth into your life with love. We were not created to do this life alone.


3. We need to slow down so we can hear Him. Be intentional of the time you spend with God allowing Him to minister to your soul, allow Him to fill the empty places.


4. Praise Jesus for His goodness. When we praise Jesus, it shines His light into the darkness.

Looking back to the times that I was hurt deeply, I wanted to tuck my tail and run,

but that's not what God wanted. What helped me through was turning my sadness into praising God, laying my hurts at His feet (over and over again sometimes), honoring Him in how I handled the circumstances. I was intentional to draw near to Him as I took refuge in Him.


5. We need to be refilling our hearts and minds with His Word. We MUST recognize when satan is attacking, so we can quickly flip those rejections/lies to what His Word says. Don't let the rejections and lies define who you are or determine your actions. God NEVER rejects us. He sees our worth even when others don't. Let God define who you are, not what you are feeling or believing.


6. I find myself seeking the Lord, asking for verses that will speak to my heart and then apply it. It is KEY to transfer His word from our heads to our hearts. Our head knowledge MUST travel to our heart. It is the “heart-knowledge” that changes and transforms us. We not only need the "knowledge" but the understanding. Understanding gives revelation. It makes it real in our lives.